Yes, you. YOU are the villain in someone’s story. It might seem harsh but the reality is, it likely has absolutely nothing to do with you. It’s all about them.
Have you heard the saying, “What Susie says about Sally has more to do with Susie than it does Sally?” Well, first of all, I purposely changed the spelling of Suzi to Susie because I don’t want to be associated with that saying, haha, but it can be hard to grasp.
How can what someone else says or thinks about you NOT be about you? Certainly, sometimes it is. If they are saying you robbed the bank and you did – well that is about you. But in many cases, how someone feels about you has as much to do with what is going on in their life as it has to do with you.
I explain this a bit more in today’s podcast which I’ve embedded below for your listening pleasure!
YOU are the villain in someone’s story
Some of you may have heard that story before. And t be honest, it bothered me for a long time. Someone still brings it up every “clean-up” season, and now I can laugh about it – but back then I have crushed someone thought I would do something like that. I am the person who will painstakingly tear a coffee pod that isn’t compostable down into its components so I can try to dispose of them properly. When I’m away from home and end up buying a bottle of water or pop or something, I will drag the empty bottle back home so I can recycle it (gimme hat 5 cents yo, lol), and her this woman honestly believed I would drag my garbage to her property and dump it.
But in the end – she didn’t even believe that. She was just upset at the moment and she took it out on me. And I can’t fault her for that. She obviously had stuff going on in her life and that was the straw that broke the camel’s back. And I think of when I’m tired and upset and overwhelmed, I’ve snapped at people that don’t deserve more times than I care to admit. And of course, the people who usually take the brunt of it are those closest to me – but not always.
So I get it. In every story, there is a hero, and there is a villain. We are each the hero of our own story (at least you should think of yourself that way!), but to be a hero – there must be a villain. And sometimes, that villain – it has to be you.